Comments on: Weep with Your Children Who Weep

By: Edwin Crozier

Edwin Crozier — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 14:15:18 +0000

Glad I'm not the only one.

By: Nathan Williams

Nathan Williams — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 12:52:24 +0000

All I can say is, "Ow." Got me right in the heart.

I too often jump on my kids instead of trying to figure out what's truly going on with them. I reckon that's not very loving, is it?

Thanks, Brother.

By: Edwin Crozier

Edwin Crozier — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 11:51:09 +0000

It's hard for me to remember it most of the time as well. That's why staying in the word is so important. The more we are in it, the more it comes to us in our times of need.

By: Edwin Crozier

Edwin Crozier — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 11:50:26 +0000

Thanks for the comment Ben. With great change can come great sorrow and trouble. Our kids need us to come alongside them and help them through it, not expect them to "buck up like adults" and handle it stoicly.

One thought, it is true that some complaining and whining should stop. But, perhaps a better understanding for us as parents is not simply to teach that complaining should stop, but to teach our children how to express their complaints in appropriately respectful ways. Just as we want our complaints heard sometimes, because we believe they are valid, so do our kids. I'm trying to learn how to do that because my natural mode is simply to get fed up and shout, "Shut up!" I'm not sure that is what I really want my kids remembering about me.

By: Ben Hastings

Ben Hastings — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 10:00:59 +0000

Edwin,

I really needed this reminder. With the family changes we've had, it's been difficult on everyone and there is a LOT of crying/whining going on. Some of it falls in the category of complaining and that needs to stop. But there are true tears of sorrow and I need to remember to let them get that out.

Thank you for sharing this important message!

By: bekah w.

bekah w. — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 21:52:17 +0000

Thank you for this post. It's really hard to remember this most of the time.